More responsible parenting

So, today I ran in to the mother of Daisy's best friend for the first time since the weird playdate we had recently. I said a quick hello and how are you as we passed eachother at the preschool gates, and she said hello back. Then she said she had been meaning to call for another playdate, but they'd been really busy. I said we should definitely do it again sometime, and then, to my infinite surprise, she made things even more bizarre than they already were. She said:

- Oh maybe we should arrange a sleep-over for the girls?

It took me a second or two to get my mind together, then I replied that I didn't think Daisy was quite confident enough for that. But playdate for sure!

Now, that was a lie. Daisy would happily go for a sleep-over in the blink of an eye and never look back. But COME ON. 

There are so many questions. I assumed she meant for the girls to stay at their place, but from experience she probably meant ours.

Scenario 1, our place. 

- I don't want another child in the house over night. We have a baby, we lack enough sleep as it is.

- Does she realise I'm not someone who likes children? I don't resent them in any way, but I am in no way one of those "good with kids" people. I am not the first person you'd call upon if your child misses mummy and needs comforting.

Scenario 2, their house.

- NO WAY.

- I don't know these people AT ALL. I don't know the rules in their house, I don't know where they draw the line for what the kids can watch on telly, I don't know who stays there. I'm 99% sure they're nice people, because most people are, but that last 1% is so not worth gambling on with Daisy as pawn.

Next time I speak to this mum I'll tell her this as diplomatically as I can, hopefully without sounding like I'm judging their parenting. Which I am, a little bit. Then I'll see if we can perhaps get to know eachother to some extent and take it from there.